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How Your Decisions Matter in A Very Real Way

You have influence on yourself and those around you.

You matter, in a very real way.


Everything from your thoughts, feelings, actions, the results you get, and the way you behave and show up, matter.


And with that you have a RESPONSIBILITY in the sense that you have every ABILITY within you to RESPOND however you choose.


Cheers to choice, right!?

That can and hopefully is a wonderful power that I hope you embrace having control over.

Cheers to control, one key fundamental human need.


What you do with that power and ability can be nurtured and tended in the way only you determine.


With that it is your responsibility of how your relationship with yourself and others will grow.


Just as plants need rain and sunlight and weeding, your relationships need looking after.

And this growth lies in YOUR commitment to yourself and who you want to be to and for others, as well as how you want to show up in the world.


If there is something in your life that you are wanting to change, struggling with, stressed or anxious about, these things, as you know, need some focus and care…. from YOU.


Whatever you might be working towards or facing in life, remember, YOU, and only you have the capability to create your world.


As Abraham Joshua Heschel wisely noted, Words create worlds.


What do you allow to grow, bloom and flourish in the garden of your mind, the choice is yours if you want to plant seeds of flowers or weeds.


The best part is, you actually can decide for yourself. Hallelujah!


Let’s look a little closer at what this can mean for you and your ability to plant a garden of your preference in your mind.


Pull the Weeds


The weeds in an external veggie garden, just like the garden in our minds, do not need to be there.

What do weeds do anyways, they compete with and invade the beautiful flowers.


For weeds to survive, they too need to be cared for. They need sunlight, water and nutrients to thrive to stay alive.


All the while they use up those same nutrients that could better support the growth of the flowers that you likely want in your garden.


Just as the words we say to ourselves on repeat, subconscious or not, need our permission to stay.

We decide what we allow in.


I imagine you can think of a number of different examples of weeds that may have developed or taken up residency in your thoughts.


These are the weeds that are draining your energy and holding you back from growing and developing.


Some Common examples of WEEDS found in the garden of the mind:


  • Anxiety

  • Imposter syndrome

  • FOMO

  • Stress

  • Self-worth

  • Distractions

  • Self-doubt

  • Bad habits


To pull these weeds out, like any weed, it is important to get them from the deepest part of their roots.

This can be tricky as many of our deepest roots stem from our youth or long ago that we don’t recall when these thoughts or beliefs about ourselves actually started.


But most importantly, you can get there, you can figure it out with time, patience and focused energy on doing just that.


There are many strategies that could work for you. Finding one might take some time, but when you do, therein lies a sweetest relief that comes with uncovering and removing the limitations these weeds create in you.


One simple and powerful way you can start on your own today to determine when those original weeds were planted is to take time to reflect on the matter at hand.

This task may seem overly simple, however, when practiced consistently, with focused attention on a specific weed in your mind, paired with journaling about it, this practice has unquestionable long-term benefits.


One other reality of this process is that weeds, new & old will continue to pop up and visit you. Hello!

They never really go away.

You just get better at recognizing them and maintaining them before their growth gets in the way of your growth.


And that is a powerful skill that will surely support you in ways you cannot yet imagine.


Plant the Seeds